Sometimes Being Strong Is A Liability
I don’t believe coincidence, so I know that if you are reading this blog, you needed to hear what I have to say. I want to share something with you that I had to learn the hard way. Yesterday, I was having a challenging day. Actually this past week has been full of surprised. It just happened to be “Selfish Sunday” for me so I was able to enjoy a 60-minute massage at my favorite spa to help kick-off this new week.
Usually I don’t talk to the massage therapist, but this day was different. I wanted to talk and so did she, so we hit it off great. There was a period in the conversation when she mentioned being married twice. She has two grown boys and mentioned that she was now single. She said that with both husbands she took care of most things and they never stepped up so that created a problem in the relationships (among other things).
Then she said something that stuck with me. She said in hindsight, she realizes that she never gave them an opportunity to step and lead, to solve problems, or to really be the man because she handled everything. WOW!
Ladies, how many of us do this? How many of us are trying to figure out how to motivate our husbands while we are taking on his role ourselves? How many of us are tired of handling our responsibilities and his? The truth is if we would get out of God’s way, he can strengthen, mature and stretch his son.
But NO. You gotta do it. You can’t wait. You are doing more harm than good. You can’t tell a man to step up without giving him the opportunity. As long as you run your relationship like Olivia Pope (It is handled), your man won’t step up.
Just thought I’d let ya know. (silly face)
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